Trust in your surrogate

Friends and family have asked how do you make sure that a surrogate will do the right thing?

The best answer I have found was on a surrogacy forum. It was from a woman that has already given the gift of life to a family.

It is very simple...TRUST.

You need to trust that your surrogate will do the right thing by you and your baby. 

If you do not trust your surrogate then maybe it is not the right match. 

Trust relates to open communication and clearly understanding each others expectation. 

Another question is about distance. How would you handle living far away from your surrogate?

While it would be hard I think I have had good training. 

My family has lived many hundreds of kilometres from me, for most of my life, so I am very comfortable with distances. As a child I had to go to boarding school to have a secondary education. At the beginning the homesickness was terrible, but you learn to get on with it. My objectives was to get the best education possible and make sure I did not waste my parents money. There was a very good reason to be away from my family, so even though it was hard it was worth it.

I imagine, to begin with, the surrogate and I would agree to how often we wanted to catch up and how often we would chat on the telephone. With Skype, email, texting and telephone calls it is so much easier to stay connected these days.